Have you ever come across an arrogant leader? I bet everyone has come across at least 1 arrogant leader. I have come across many in my years as a Transformation coach, working with many high level executives in organization. But, have you ever taken the time to turn around and examine your own arrogance? What would you find if you asked yourself why that leader’s arrogance bothers you?
We will always have arrogance to deal with, but the most important piece of this is to recognize what triggers you and how you can better deal with the arrogance. Once you know why arrogance irritates you, you’ll be better equipped to name it and move forward. Listen to this interview with Bob Anderson where we dive into specific examples of arrogance.
Key Points from this Episode:
- It is easy to spot arrogance in others around us but more importantly arrogance needs to be identified within us. Instead of placing blame on others, first look at yourself and see what you find in yourself.
- We can feel vulnerable in work environments. As much as we want to feel like we are equal to or have the same amount of power as another, the truth is we all have different amounts of power at work.
- We attach many things to our identity, our ego. We get validation from those around us which inforce how we think about ourselves. This has the potential to grow our arrogance.
- If you are curious about how you are showing up, go ask a few of your colleagues how they see you. You might be surprised to hear what you are telling those you work with, even just with your facial expressions!
- You never know someone’s story, where they came from and what they are dealing with. Remember compassion.
- There are no difficult people. They only exist because they raise a difficulty in ourselves.
- “It’s not who we are, it’s how we’re not who we are.”
- Get in the practice of asking yourself, “Am I part of the problem?”
- It is so easy to identify ourselves as our ideas or our title, and if those things are not accepted then we feel not accepted.
- Remember to be open and listen.
- Our life stories have developed us in a certain way. This is not a bad thing, but it is something that needs to be examined and looked at so that we can know why we behave the way we do.
I hope you liked this episode! If you are curious about knowing how and why you behave the way you do, schedule some time with me! I love helping others get to the root of how they act and figuring out next steps to create the change you are wanting. Schedule a session with me here.
Bob Anderson has been a pacesetter and thought leader in the field of Leadership Development for over 30 years. He is the Founder, Chairman and Chief Development Officer of The Leadership Circle and Full Circle Group. Bob has completed his second co-authored book “Scaling Leadership: Building Organizational Capability and Capacity to Create Outcomes that Matter Most.” “Scaling Leadership” is an essential guide that offers senior leaders the information needed to develop conscious leadership at scale with their organization.